.Tuesday, August 26, 2008 ' 1:43 AM Y
"This is a post from my man Interceptor, directed to a guy who didn't feel much hope. The thread has been deleted, for reasons which don't need to be elaborated on.
Fortunately I copied and saved this post before the thread was deleted.
If it's really BAD for you right now--- like REALLY BAD and you don't see any light at the end of the tunnel--- if your thoughts are getting the best of you--- if you feel like you're going through one of those "turning point" moments but don't know exactly what to make of it, if you feel everyone in your life has let you down and the human race is something you can't handle, this slightly edited post is for you.
...You are killing your psyche.
You are choosing to regress and wallow in Self Pity.
....I am going to tell you something that will stand out in your mind for the rest of your Life.
This MUST be the BASIS for your Perspective on LIFE, until Consciousness in the Earth is RAISED.
You CANNOT EXPECT things from people.
Even your parents.
Get used to the idea that we all grw up thinking that the love and attention we got from our parents is how the World WORKS. That EVERYONE we Love WILL in fact , give back this LOVE in the SAME Manner. UNCONDITIONALLY and ENDLESS.
This is not happening for the time being. The sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.
You cannot EXPECT Help and Support and Loyalty and Reciprocation from People.
You must learn to understand that what People GIVE you is BY THEIR Choice, NOT YOURS.
Anything you want from people, and are trying to "GET" will only SLIP AWAY FASTER.
When you try to USE People to FILL UP A VOID in your SELF.......... You are two steps behind and falling further behind.
You cannot EXPECT People to Fill YOU Up.
That can ONLY COME FROM INSIDE you.
You and ONLY YOU can TRULY "LOVE" YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.
And yes, YOU have the POWER to do that. Loving youself is a choice.
You are clearly not making that choice.this is the cold hard bitter truth........
........the more you try to GET and TAKE from people, and the MORE you 'expect' from PEOPLE, the LESS they WILL GIVE to YOU.
You MUST be SELF Sufficient.
You must be SELF RELIANT.
You must be SELF ASSURED.
You must HAVE SELF ESTEEM!
You must RECOGNIZE your SELF WORTH! Even in the face of bullsh*t "EViDENCE"!!!
Because that "EVIDENCE" means you are LOOKING to the OUTSIDE to VALIDATE you! You are seeking APPROVAL of YOUSELF!
From everyone EXCEPT the MOST IMPORTANT Person....YOU.
The more you are NEEDY, the LESS people will give.
The more you NEED support, the less they will support you.
THE MORE you try TO TAKE...the LESS YOU WILL GET!
THE ONLY HELP THAT YOU WILL GET..IS ONLY ONLY ONLY ONLY WHEN YOU HELP YOURSELF FIRST!!!!!!!!!!
ONLY ONLY ONLY.
YOU MUST HELP YOURSELF FIRST!
IF not, no one will step up and do what you can do.
THERE IS NO BETTER HELP THAN SELF HELP.
OTHERWISE, you will NOT build SElf Esteem from your own self help!
You will learn to be NEEDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DO YOU UNDERSTAND?????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !
You must recognize that whatever Love and Affection you get is a GIFT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is one of the MOST IMPORTANT Premises and Perspectives YOU MUST have as a Mature Masculine Realized Man.
You cannot go out looking for reciprocity and expecting Behavior from people. No no no.
The only reason you feel that this is wrong, and you feel the world has wronged you ,and that you are OWED something by people is because you have NOT YET RECOGNIZED your SELF WORTH!!!!!!!!!!!
AND CANNOT at this TIME LOVE YOURSELF .
You LACK Self LOVE.
So in order to FILL THAT VOID.......YOU ARE EXPECTING OTHERS TO FILL IT FOR YOU!
THIS IS WRONG.
Your GOAL in Life is to be Independent.
And find Happiness the WAY YOU want it.
The most important recognition comes from yourself.
The most important beliefs and opinions are your own.
The most valuable Validation comes from yourself.
You probably will not agree to a lot of this.
Because of your current Point of View.
What is that POV?
That you EXPECT people to be good to you, because you are good to them.
This is wrong.. my friend.
You place too much importance and meaning on outside sources and people. This is wrong.
And here's something you have to consider..
your Beliefs are responsible for what you FEEL RIGHT NOW.
The reason you feel this way is BECAUSE OF the MATRIX/Belief SYSTEM YOU HAVE Subscribed to.
Im going to let you read this and let it sink in.
You are not to reply until you have read this thoroughly and have come up with concret questions.
Do not wallow in Self Pity.
Do not glamorize or canonize yourself for suffering.
Ok, Take some time right now.
Take a deep breath and get yourself together.
We will help you through this.
But I warn you, if you don't own up to your mistakes,dont take responsibility, live in denial and rationalizing, and continue the "Woe is Me." attitude, you will be losing one of the greatest opportunities you can even imagine.
There are guys who came back from Iraq right now whom have no arms or legs, and are badly scarred.
Many of them are actually Happy and resolvent and un shakeable.
They've seen buddies blown up, body parts everywhere.
They've lost good friends, and have horrible memories, and severe severe trauma and physical ailments.
Many of them want to stay active and keep helping others in any way they can.
Stand back, gain proper perspective, use Observing Ego.
Realize that this moment RIGHT NOW is one of the GREATEST moments of your Life.It is one of the crowning points of achievement in your life.
I am not lying to you.
What you are about to do, and the journey you are about to embark on will change your life and the lives of people around you forever.
The self esteem you will build STARTING NOW will remain untouched forever and no one can ever EVER take it away from you.The accomplishments you will begin to do will be outside of your imagination......
It all starts now.
Quoted from: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=137740
Okay, before you people start thinking I've going ballocks, this forum post was shown to me by Dear and I think EVERYONE should really read this and reflect. Yes this was how I used to be, and even now I am still, even though I have become better, I am still very much imperfect.
Sure. There is no perfect being in this world, but that should not be an excuse for us to simply sit there and NOT do anything about our lives. Read the entire post and truly reflect on what you are now, what you have been and what you want to be. I shall not say more.